Many people think all celebrations in May are to pay homage to those who help God usher humanity onto Earth or those who simply helped to raise humans once they arrived. However, did you know it is also International Masturbation month. Close your mouth…yes that’s what I said. Now if you are still clutching your imaginary pearls, I understand because I felt the same way when the Black Matchmaker Dr Aesha dropped this bombshell on my unsuspecting soul.
As The Love Engineer of course I was fascinated by how this came about. Well long story short, remember sista girl Surgeon General Jocelyn Elders she got into all kinds of trouble when she suggested the novel idea that instead of just teaching children the mechanics of sex that we also taught them the essence of pleasing themselves as a way to reduce STD’s, AIDS etc. This brilliant idea got her kicked out of her position and then sex shop, Good Vibrations came to her defense. In 1994 they declared MAY international masturbation month.
Now I don’t expect to see this to make it to your news feed but do tell at least two friends. If the word masturbation is too harsh, how about we call it certified self pleasure. If you are a good girl or a church girl then I know you have had all kinds of messages about the holiness or hell-fire that awaits you if you even consider self-pleasure. The good book says we are fearfully and wonderfully made. You deserve to feel good regardless and whether you are boo’d up or by yourself, you are worthy to feel good. So what if you were willing to suspend all judgements of yourself, honor your desires and know that pleasure is your birthright.
Just like I am a fan of 365 Black History. You should feel good 365. Prioritizing your pleasure even in none intimate ways brings more joy, and happiness to your world. So indulge this month in many things that truly bring you pleasure. If it takes a pandemic finding new ways to celebrate and show yourself some love then that is just what the Doctor ordered.
Ways to Celebrate
Grab some pretty lingerie
Get a glass of your favorite sparkling beverage
Light some candles
Put on your favorite music or tune into D-Nice after dark
Take pictures (for your eyes only)
Stand in front of a full body mirror and LOVE every inch of you
If you need a how to self pleasure celebration guide checkout OOPs by Tweet she will get you together!
Remember you DESERVE to FEEL GOOD!!
