Real Talk About Love, Sex and Relationships


Relationships are hard - especially when you've never broken down the fundamentals. At the heart, relationships are about communication. How we speak to each other, how we attract each other and how we understand each other. 

Dessert & Discussion is a platform created by Alex "The Love Engineer" Merritt - who made it her life's passion to understand how men and women interact in the context of love. Dessert & Discussion is a space that supports and dissects the idea of relationships. From events that stimulate conversation to party games that spice up 'small talk' - this is a place for love.


What is Dessert & Discussion?


A new kind of night out


Dessert & Discussion brings men and women into a shared space to nibble on sweets, have a few cocktails and get real about love.

Love Check-up


This is your one-stop resource for giving your relationship a check-up. Check out the helpful digital courses from The Love Engineer.


Get in the game


Netflix and chill getting a little stale? The War on Love Game is our first game series perfect for couples or singles. 


Want to know your love style?

The shortest distance between two people is a smile.
— Alex Merritt - The Love Engineer

The Love Engineer


Hi, I am Alex Merritt, affectionately known as The Love Engineer.  I see the world differently. What started out as a desire to satisfy my own curiosity about how and why relationships work or fail, has now become an incredible platform of purpose with an audacious mission to strengthen and improve the way men and women communicate. 

It's time we stop trying to read each other's minds and start having real conversations about what we want out of love.