Despite what we may imagine, all the relationship goals in the world can’t save us from a situation that does not fit who we are. What’s most important in relationships is that we’re staying true to ourselves and along the way – making our own traditions. Here are a few relationship standards that you should feel free to opt out of.
Waiting For Him To Make The First Move
Your eyes meet across a crowded room and a connection is made. Now what? How about instead of waiting for him to make his way over, you meet him halfway and buy hima drink? Ladies shouldn’t be afraid to go after what they want. Long gone are the expectations of the docile woman awaiting a man’s precious graces. Take charge, there will be plenty of time later to let him take the wheel.
Changing Your Last Name
I recently attended a wedding where the bride and groom compromised on a new last name for the both of them. Instead of the woman changing her identity to match his – they both created a new legacy to mark their union by mutually changing last names. Who says you have to abide by silly old ideals about marital identity? Change it up and make new traditions together.
Waiting to Have Sex
The idea that a relationship that is sparked by an immediate sexual connection will die young is completely unfounded. What makes the most sense can vary from person to person. Jumping in to bed (or staying out of it entirely) should be about what you want, how you feel and what the vibe is like. Sex can be a distracting hinderance for some people and for others – the perfect motivator.
Letting Him Buy
This debate is always a heated one at the Dessert & Discussion events. Should the man pay? Should you go dutch? How about we remove the word “should” and let the chips fall where they may. Whatever you decide – make it clear at the date’s inception. Tell him you want to go half on dinner or go dutch on a movie if you don’t want him to carry the financial weight of the night’s festivities. Be mindful of not coming off as too guarded or overbearing and stay open to the man who (was raised right) and wouldn’t dare let you touch the dinner bill.
Skip The Bling Bling
Diamonds are a girl’s best friend, huh? How about amethyst, jade or turquoise? What about a ring tattoo? What about no ring at all? If diamonds aren’t your thing, you don’t have to subscribe to them as the marital standard. Whether it’s for your wedding day or your anniversary day – let your personality (not empty and mindless traditions) be your guide.