When it comes to relationship success it’s no secret that sex is an important ingredient in the recipe. Yet many men and women report varying levels of sexual satisfaction as the relationship goes on. According to Great Good article people are having less sex than in prior years. Whether or not this a problem all depends on how you look at it. With sex seemingly everywhere what has become apparent is that whether people are having as much as they would like or not, when you do have it, everyone wants it to be enjoyable. Yet over the years of my empirical observations for many often it’s not. So here are 3 things that you should consider in order to have a more sucSexful relationship.
Sex Re-education - 101
Most of the education about the birds and the bees was unclear for many people. Like to this day I still don’t know how the “Birds & Bees” became the universal sex education metaphor for sex. So what we learned was often clinical and anatomy based. This is great, except it often just doesn’t translate into satisfaction. Learning what you like is a starting part in sex re-ED as I call it. Taking time to explore what truly turns you on and off. Most early sex education was laced with shame, guilt and condemnation. As a result, many carry this forward into adulthood. So the main key in sex-reEducation is to take time to release any and all sexual judgements you may be harboring like shame or disgust at your natural desires. This is important to be free to be able to enjoy your very natural human sexual desire.
Foreplay All DAY
There is no bigger misunderstanding between the genders that what puts the other in the mood. Biologically adult men have on average, about 7 to 8 times more testosterone, which is known as the sex hormone, as adult women have. So that means it appears men are often “in the mood” sooner and more often than women. For illustration men are like a gas stove, all you have to do is turn the dial and it’s hot. Women are more like a pot of water, on the stove, she has to reach 212 degrees to be boiling hot. So to offset this foreplay should start long before the bedroom. Men are often turned on visually. Women are often turned on mentally. So take the time to share passion through notes, sexy texts, non-sexual touching or surprisingly doing chores together. Having a partner who helps arounds the house or with chores like vacuuming or dishes is a major turn on for women.
It is so easy to get into to a routine. Routines make our lives easier and more predictable, yet when it comes to our sex lives routine can quickly put a damper on it. It is important to make time for physical intimacy if you are in a relationship, but don’t be scared to mix it up a little. If there is a standard build up to the bedroom, go ahead break the pattern every now and again. You don’t have to become a pro at the Kama Sutra in order to spice things up. Change up who gets it started, if you are woman try initiating sex, most of the time due to conditioning men often are the initiators. Enjoy a morning or afternoon tryst. Again we all love a little variety in our lives so go ahead and add a little surprise of your own to spice up your sex life.
Share some other ways that can help people become ‘SucSEXful’!!