In the days of reclaiming my time, technology has changed the way we do everything from paying bills, finding restaurants, applying make up and taking care of our hair. In fact, technology has even help us creatively answer the age old question āwhere are all the good men?ā Hint, in that travel group you spend hours scrolling in. With online dating on the rise and new apps popping up every day to help us find the one, there is a new frustration in full bloom! How do I get a guy to ask me out on a date?" Well, what if you donāt have to GO OUT to date? Thatās right, why not let your first date be a virtual one? Hear me out, there are pros and cons to everything but here are 3 reasons you should consider 'going outā on your smartphone.
Itās EASIER to SCHEDULE
Letās face it, even the most mundane people these days are busy with a capital B. So finding time where both peopleās calendars sync us is like finding a four leaf clover. Even though the idea of connecting with someone new is enticing, itās hard to forego that known Happy Hour that will bring you pleasure for potential. Besides you donāt have a lot invested yet and donāt really want to start blowing things off for someone who you are not really sure you likeā¦like that! Between work schedules, standing brunch and intermittent yoga classes there never seems to be a good time align with his fantasy football leagues, business meetings and evening plans. So rather than keep putting a first date off, a virtual date is less cumbersome to schedule. When you take out the part of needing to be at the SAME PLACE at the SAME TIME it is so much easier to find a window in your busy life to get to know someone. You can been in California and he can be in Colorado and it can still work. Just be sure to double check the timezones though!! Facetime, Skype or Zoom are just a few of the platforms that can host your virtual date with ease.
Itās all so Chill CHILE
Since Virtual Dates are newish there are few preconceived expectations about how one is āsupposed to goā. The most anxiety is about whether or not the signal is good and will hold, so triple check that. No worries for real, because, if you must default to the good oleā regular phone call, well you are still winning and talking. Now you still may want to make sure your face is beat but you show up to this date with your bare feet. There are so many things you can start the conversation off with that wonāt run you into discussion dead-end. You can ask where is your virtual date, what do they like about the place they chose etc. Itās also a perfect time to discuss what is your favorite thing to do on non-virtual dates. Yet, if it still feels a little hard you can find creative ways to spark discussions with games such as the provocative conversation starter āThe War On Love Gameā created by āThe Love Engineerā (Warning: Take out the sex specific questions unless you want to take it there early). One round opens up endless topics you and your virtual date can explore. There is also something disarming and easy about virtual dates. You can see facial expressions, pick up on body language and all that jazz, while building anticipation for future in person dates. Not to mention the joy of doing something new for a first date!!
NO FRILLS, NO FUSS, NO FEELING BAD
Your personality can really shine through and his wonāt be overshadowed by you either being overly impressed or disappointed in the atmosphere. You can go on your virtual date at your counter top, on your couch or at the beach (again just check the signal strength). Many dates start going bad the moment the date begins because it not what was expected. Think about it, if the point of the date is to talk and get to know each other, what a better way to do that than in the comfort of an environment you choose. Itās easy and no one will feel like they are just being taken advantage of for free entertainment. There are Men, who are spending 1000ās of dollars a year on 1st date lattes and steak dinners alike, only to sit across from a person they are never going to see again. Similarly, there are women spending 1000ās of dollars on clothes, beauty regimens and countless girlfriends hours prepping for dates with a man she will never see again. If the virtual date doesnāt go well nothing has been lost and the feeling of āwasting time or wasting moneyā is virtually non-existent. You were more than likely going to be scrolling online ANYWAY! When itās over there is no awkward wondering about if he will go in for a kiss or once the check comes who pays and is sex expected. You can end the date, say goodnight and if it went well, have plans to meet in person soon.
Would you go on a virtual date? Tell us why or why not in the comments!